Three Steps to Overcome Imposter Syndrome
It only takes 3 steps to overcome imposter syndrome!
If you worry about the value you have to offer, dismiss your success as luck, or worry that you might be deceiving others into thinking you are more competent than you believe yourself to be, you might just be suffering from imposter syndrome!
Imposter syndrome is the irrational fear of being found out as a fraud!
If we look deep into imposter syndrome, we will find a sense of being unworthy of true success, and thus, true abundance. Even if you receive outward acclaim and reward, the fear that it will all go away steals the joy you could (and should) be feeling. Nothing will stop your success or the flow of abundance in your life more than the nagging self-doubt that you aren’t worth it.
What is imposter syndrome?
Despite the name, it isn’t a disease or abnormality, and is not tied to depression, anxiety or self-esteem. It is a feeling, an experience, a belief that can be hard to shake. In fact, the psychologist who first studied it in the 70’s says calling it a “syndrome” downplays how universal the feeling truly is—one that has been established across gender, race, age, and profession.
Even when we are very skilled and talented, we often tend to think other people are just as talented as us, causing us to feel unaccomplished and as if we don’t deserve the opportunities coming our way.
Imposter syndrome is so common due to the idea of“pluralistic ignorance”: while we each second-guess ourselves privately, we believe we are alone in our doubts because no one else voices their own thoughts.
Three Steps to Overcome Imposter Syndrome Once and For All
1. Start a conversation
The only surefire way to quiet your inner critic is to talk about what’s going on in your mind. While this may sound simple, many people hesitate to share how they feel for fear that the feedback they receive will only confirm their concerns. However, often when people discuss their experience of feeling like they don’t belong, they learn others around them have felt the same way in the past. Learning that a mentor or trusted friend has also gone through the same thing can provide clarity and relief to those with imposter syndrome.
2. Collect your Positive Experiences
Many of us toss off the compliments we receive for our work, and only remember the criticism. The next time someone starts to sing your praises, allow yourself to truly appreciate what is being said. Make an effort to listen to and reflect on words of encouragement. Personally, I have a compliment box in my office. Whenever a client sends me a nice message, gives me a testimonial, or sends me a card, I put it in the box! I save that box for whenever self-doubt starts to creep up!
3. Realize you’re Not Alone!
Having open conversations about challenges is another way we can undercut feelings of imposterism — which may never entirely fade — because those common experiences can help us realize we’re not as alone in our insecurities as we feel.
For instance, developing awareness around academic and professional challenges — where mistakes can come from equipment failure as opposed to competence — is essential for thriving and building confidence.
You are amazingly talented and truly gifted – don’t ever doubt that!
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